Table Setting Survival Guide

From Bettina

Recently, we had a 90th birthday party here at The Riddick House, and as everyone sat down to dinner, one of the younger guests quietly asked us which fork to use. This made me realize how much table etiquette has been neglected as part of our education today. I know some of my friends are terrified of having to go to elegant functions. But don’t worry! I’m here to help you! This is my quick place setting survival guide so you navigate those formal dinner parties, once a year office holiday parties, fancy galas, or weddings—whether you’re the one attending or throwing the party.

Today, there are commonly three types of place settings that are used: basic, informal, and formal. Sometimes the settings will vary depending on the type of event, the time of day, or even how creative the hosts want to be, but here is a good starting point:

1. The bread plate and butter knife
2. Salad fork
3. Dinner fork
4. Salad plate
5. Dinner plate
6. Decorative charger (don’t use this to eat food on)
7. Steak/dinner knife
8. Dinner/soup spoon
9. White wine glass
10. Red wine glass
11. Water goblet
12. Dessert/coffee spoon and dessert fork
13. Individual salt and pepper (optional)

Is something missing? You’re probably wondering, where’s the napkin? Generally, the napkin can be placed in the center of the plate, to the left of the forks, or under the forks.

If you have trouble remembering which forks and knives to use, here’s a tip: just remember to use them from the outside in towards the plate. When you’re finished with your meal, rest your utensils diagonally across the plate.

Whew. That wasn’t so hard was it? Now go and impress your friends and family!
P.S.: Save this so you can refer back to it later…